I’ve been working on Emma’s baby book and thinking about what a newborn really needs. And by “I’ve been working,” I mean… I started yesterday because it’s on my things-to-do-before-baby-3-comes list. (Emma is 21 months old. Better late than never.) #winning #lifegoals ANYWAY, I started her baby book, and I was remembering the craziness surrounding the month she was born.
It was a couple of our hardest months.
There was a cross country move circa 36 weeks pregnant.
There was staying at my inlaws’ for 10 days – just Addie & me because they were on vacation and Ben was finishing grad school/ driving our moving truck across the country by himself.
There was Ben going to a job interview the day he arrived in Omaha.
There was Ben getting aforementioned job… because employed > unemployed.
There was realizing Ben couldn’t start job until a month after Emma was born.
There was unloading our minimal amount of earthly possessions in our new rental house that we hadn’t even seen yet.
There was being out of money because we had been living on student loans for 10 months and the money was almost gone.
There was having a ginormous pile of student loan debt to tackle on one income.
And then, Emma was born.
She ushered in joy and stillness and quiet to an otherwise chaotic, stressful, anxiety-filled month. The day we came home was the first night in our new (rental) home.
We had no extra furniture – there were 2 couches (used & cheap from Craigslist). And our beds. And a table and chairs in our eat-in kitchen.
And that’s about it.
Please note the cardboard box end table beside the couch – gotta have somewhere to put your water and breast pump 😉
No crib, no changing table, no dressers, no rocker.
No special going home outfit.
No organized closet full of little onesies with tags on.
No baby animal art hung or carefully arranged shelves.
Toys were in boxes.
She slept in a basket. (This one)
And as I thought back on all this, I realized…
a newborn doesn’t need that much.
We had a carseat and stroller; some hand-me-downs and old blankets; my favorite velcro swaddler + paci. But not much extra.
And in looking back at pictures while putting together her baby book, I remembered that while all the extra stuff is fun – decorating a nursery, buying tiny clothes, registering for tiny gifts – it’s just that.
And if you don’t have very much, or can’t do all that, that’s okay.
Babies don’t need that much. At the risk of sounding painfully cheesy & all hormonally preggo, babies need nurturing love, food, and sleep. And that’s about it.
If you’re a mom-to-be and you feel the pressure – to get it all done, or make everything just so, or have it all together – it’s okay. You don’t have to. You can relax.
Say “yes” to all the help that’s offered.
Say “no” to everything that sounds like too much.
And love your baby as best you can.
The rest will fall into place.
Because what a newborn really needs is love.