Where should baby sleep? Can a newborn sleep in the swing? A rock n play? Is cosleeping okay for newborn? Here is some newborn sleep help and sleep training tips about getting your newborn to sleep in crib.

Why Baby Should Sleep In Their Own Bed From Day 1

baby sleep in their own bed

baby sleep in their own bed
baby sleep in their own bed

It seems like moms would do almost anything to get their babies to sleep more. Getting your baby to sleep for 12 hours straight at night is the holy grail of baby sleep. But, maybe you’d even settle for getting baby to sleep for even just 4 or 6 hours without feeding.

There are so many tips and tricks we’ve learned with our own 4 babies, and they all kind of fit together to form a sleep training method that I’ve written a whole step-by-step guide about.

But one key to it is teaching baby to primarily sleep in their own bed from day 1. ish… Obviously you should soak up those tiny newborn snuggles the first few weeks whenever you want. But, you should also be able to take a shower during baby’s nap!

Your baby can sleep in a crib, pack n play, bassinet, or even a swing sometimes.

Putting baby down to sleep on his own from the beginning is one key to healthy baby sleep habits.

Let’s unpack the “pros” of putting baby to sleep in their own bed from the beginning.


This reasoning falls under the logic of “begin as you mean to go on.” We tend to take this approach to parenting, whenever it’s sensible.

If you don’t want to deal with a baby who screams and cries because they can’t sleep with you in 8 months or 2 years, then don’t start now.

Of course, sometimes baby will fall asleep on you, or you’ll feed the baby at 5 am, and then both doze back off in bed until 7 am.

But, as a pattern, if you lay baby down to sleep in his own bed rather than letting him sleep with you, you will avoid a nasty transition out of your bed a few months later.


If you consistently put baby to sleep in his own bed, with a white noise machine on in the background, he will learn to sleep soundly and get more restorative sleep.

Babies who constantly wake up after 45-60 minutes are not getting the right amount of sleep or sleeping deeply enough to feel rested. They will be perpetually overtired… and cranky.

One mom who read my book said she thought her baby was colicky until she started our method and realized he was just overtired!

If you start sleep training as a newborn, including putting baby to sleep in his own bed most of the time, then he will get better quality of sleep and in turn be a more well-rested, happier baby.


Babies go through sleep cycles just like adults. You know how you sometimes kinda-sorta wake up in the middle of the night, roll over, and go back to sleep? That’s most likely happening in the lightest phase of your sleep cycle.

The infant sleep cycle is about 45 minutes long, and every 45 minutes, depending on how soundly your baby is sleeping, he is very likely to do a baby-equivalent of kinda sorta waking up, rolling over, and going back to sleep.

But a lot of babies never learn to sleep through this transition in their sleep cycle, so they wake up crying and never nap longer than 45 minutes. (Maybe you know a baby like that?! Haha!)

The baby version of “rolling over” sometimes involves fussing of some sort or even a loud cry for a minute. Often, the baby is still asleep. He just cries a little during the stirring process.

If baby is sleeping in your bed, and he starts grunting and fussing next to you, you’re probably going to start feeding him just so everyone can get back to sleep as soon as possible.

If baby is in a different room, you won’t hear the quiet grunts. And even if starts crying, you can give him a minute or two to see if he’ll go back to sleep. Especially if it’s been less than 3 hours!

If you start this process of letting baby figure out those sleep transitions from the beginning, your baby will learn to sleep through them.

Which leads me to my next point…


If baby sleeps in a different room (and you’re following our method of waking baby up to eat during the day),you won’t get woken up by every little grunt. Baby won’t develop the habit of needing to nurse back to sleep every time he wakes, and you will be able to ACTUALLY GET SLEEP between each night time feeding.

Real sleep. REM sleep. Where your body restores itself

In fact, baby will stretch to 3-4 and 4-6 hours intervals by about 6 weeks old, and you’ll be able to wake up, go into the baby’s room (or closet or hallway or living room), feed the baby for 30 minutes, lay him back down, and go back to sleep in your own bed for the next several hours.

Friends, you can get good sleep with a baby in your house. I promise! You just have to put some work into good sleep habit training the first few months and it will get better!!


Babies learn their mom’s smell almost immediately after they’re born. An article on parenting.com summed it up well:

“Your baby will recognize your scent within days of birth. Researchers have found that 3-day-old infants are able to discriminate their mom’s milk from someone else’s by its smell. And not only does your baby know your scent, he loves it too. “A baby will snuggle his nose between your chin and shoulder,” says Alice Sterling Honig, Ph.D., professor emerita of child development at Syracuse University. “He’s thinking, ‘Oh, you smell so good. You’re my mommy!'” –https://www.parenting.com/article/what-your-baby-knows-about-you

Your smell makes your baby want to eat in the middle of the night. Which is the exact opposite of what you want! You want them to EAT DURING THE DAY and SLEEP AT NIGHT.

Of course, they need to eat every 3-5 hours during the night when they’re teeny tiny newborns, but all our kids have slept 10-12 hours by 12-16 weeks old. And by 6 weeks, they were stretching to 5-6 hours.

You do not need to feed your baby every hour during the middle of the night.

If baby is sleeping in your bed, or even right next to your bed, she can smell you, and she’ll want to eat every time she’s even remotely awake or stirring.

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Getting baby full at each feeding during the day is a huge part of our sleep training method. (I outline an in-depth explanation in my sleep training guide. )

But, nursing a newborn for 10 minutes in the middle of the night will not fill baby up! Eventually, babies become very fast at nursing, but at first they are VERY SLOW. And very sleepy.

So, when they fall back asleep after 10 minutes of nursing, you want to wake them back up so that they’ll eat a full meal.

When their midnight feeding actually fills them up all the way, they can go another 3+ hours until eating again.

Some of the other reasons listed above affected nursing as well. But this is the biggest one! If you want baby to sleep through the night ASAP, you need to wake yourself up as fully as possible, go into their room, and nurse them until they’re full. (Don’t crawl back into bed after they doze at the breast.)

Do whatever can to keep baby awake and eating until he is full!!

These middle of the night feedings will probably take 30-60 minutes with a newborn because newborns are so slow and sleepy. Some ideas for helping baby stay awake are:

  • Pull baby off the breast as soon as he starts dozing
  • Diaper change
  • Get him undressed
  • Wet wipe on his toes

It’s nearly impossible to keep baby awake when he’s sleeping in your bed. If baby is sleeping with you, you are WAY more likely to just let them nurse back to sleep so you can go back to sleep ASAP.

But if you have to wake up and walk to their bed, you’re more alert, and more motivated to get them full so you don’t have to go back there for at least another 3 hours.

The other hidden “pro” here is that you will probably not hear them until they are fully awake and crying. When they first start waking to eat, they moan and grunt and stir until they’re fully awake. If baby is in your bed, you’ll likely wake up immediately and start nursing. They’re already prone to getting sleepy while eating, and if they’re not fully awake, it’ll be even harder to get them to eat a full feeding.

On the other hand, if you don’t hear them until they are AWAKE AND LOUDLY PROTESTING, “Mom come feed me,” they will be likely to vigorously nurse for at least the first 10-20 minutes. Then as they doze, you can wake them back up more easily.


The less baby relies on you to get them to sleep, the easier it is to get them to take consistent naps.

All 4 of our babies, plus countless others who have used our method can testify that naps are possible!

Kids vary in how much daytime and nighttime sleep they need, but they don’t vary that much. All little newborns need several good naps throughout the day in order to be happy when they are awake.

Consistently placing baby in their own bed to sleep from the time they’re a tiny baby will help them develop those good napping habits that you want them to have when they’re not so tiny anymore.

Plus, it makes it easier for other people to take care of your baby if baby knows how to go to sleep in their own bed.


I don’t actually blog much about marriage, but I want to just say: it’s hard enough to make time for each other when you have a new baby. If you’re first time parents, there’s a MASSIVE adjustment. Every baby after the first is still an adjustment.

  • Nursing moms spend a lot of their time feeding baby and often don’t have energy leftover to even talk to their spouse, let alone anything else πŸ˜‰
  • Postpartum motherhood is not exactly glorious or sexy.

Regardless of where baby sleeps, new parents are exhausted. The goal should be to move out of this dazed-and-confused-exhaustion as fast as possible.

Putting baby to sleep in their own bed will accelerate that! I promise!


Listen up mommas. Babies don’t keep. You can start the sleep training process with your newborn and still get lots of sweet sleepy newborn snuggles.

By all means, please do! We had 4 babies in 5 years and just like that, it’s over! No more newborns in our house! (Lord willing.) It goes crazy crazy fast, so make sure that you let your baby sleep on you sometimes. πŸ™‚

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Because it won’t be long before they basically can’t sleep on you anymore. [Feeling all the feels as I write that!!]

But, most of the time, for naps and night, your baby should sleep in their own bed.

It will help them sleep through the night sooner, and you will be a more well-rested momma! Now, who doesn’t want more rest?!

If you have any other tips or questions, feel free to leave them in the comments or get in touch on instagram!

And don’t forget to grab my sleep training guide for free!!

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